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I’m Worried ABout Someone Else

If you’re here, it’s because something doesn’t feel right. For example, you may have noticed changes in someone you care about, a friend, family member, colleague or neighbour.

• You may feel unsure what to say.
• You may be afraid of making things worse.
• You may not know if it’s ‘serious enough’.

Trust your instinct. Concern is a powerful first step.

What You Can Do

STOP DV is committed to a no call unanswered approach.

24/7 HELPLINE: 1800 123 456

If you are in immediate danger, call 000

STOP DV is Here to Support Both Victim-survivors and the People Who Care About Them.

Family and domestic violence is not always visible. 

Some possible signs include:

  • Sudden withdrawal from friends or family.
  • Appearing anxious, fearful or on edge.
  • Unexplained injuries or frequent ‘accidents’.
  • Partner monitoring calls, messages or movements.
  • Financial stress despite stable income.
  • Expressing fear of upsetting their partner.
  • Being criticised, humiliated or controlled.
  • Frequently cancelling plans at the last minute.

One sign alone does not confirm abuse. But, patterns matter.

What You Can Do

1. Start a Gentle Conversation

Choose a safe, private moment and say something like:

 

  • I’ve noticed you seem stressed lately. I’m here if you want to talk.
  • You don’t deserve to be in a position that makes you feel afraid.
  • I'm worried about you.

2. Listen Without Judgment

You don't need to fix the situation. If they start to open up:

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    Believe them.
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    Validate their feelings.
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    Avoid asking ‘why don’t you just leave?’
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    Avoid minimising the behaviour.

3. Encourage Professional Support

To help them consider the idea you can say:

  • There are services that can help you confidentially.
  • You don’t have to go through this alone.
  • Would you like me to sit with you while you call?

What You Shouldn't Do

Escalation can increase risk.

For their safety:

  • Do not confront the abusive person.
  • Do not post concerns publicly.
  • Do not pressure them into immediate action or demand that they leave immediately (unless someone is in immediate danger).
  • Do not share their situation without consent (unless someone is in immediate danger).
  • Criticise their choices

How STOP DV Can Support You

Even if you are not the victim-survivor, you can call us.

We can:

Help you understand what may be happening

Guide you on safe ways to support them.

Help you assess risk

Provide resources or offer referrals

Offer advocacy support

Explain legal and practical options

Supporting someone through domestic violence can feel overwhelming.

 You do not have to carry that alone.

24/7 HELPLINE: 1800 123 456

If you are in immediate danger, call 000